What is Magical Thinking?

An individual who has been stalking me for over a year sent me harassing, lovebombing letters claiming that he would move in with me etc., without even knowing me. He wrote that he would focus 100% of his energy on me, as if engaging himself in this kind of magical thinking would somehow affect me and awaken my interest in him.

In the meanwhile, I had already reported him to the police for stalking me and informed him that I have done so.

Now I have blocked him everywhere on social media. If he for some reason would ever manage to come physically close to me, I’d call the emergency number.

Needless to say, people engaging in this kind of behavior express a lot about themselves by doing so.

Listen to The Little Shaman Healing´s podcast about the topic:

The Stockholm Syndrome


In a time of uncertainty, even in previously peacefully related locations such as Stockholm, I am glad to hear that my friends in Stockholm are safe & sound! In these times of rapidly changing markets and an uncertain world, we all have to be increasingly much grounded and peaceful. When we are at peace with ourselves, we will also be at peace with our surroundings, thus creating an increasingly much peaceful world. Please do not let drama enter your mind, or your life. Focus upon creating a peaceful and loving life, and world, to yourself and to those around you. Only through changing ourselves, and through being loving and kind, can we influence those around us as well, to become loving and peaceful.

Aspire to be friends with everyone, starting with yourself. Expand your friendship to whomever you meet upon your journey on Earth, and make everyone into a friend. Kindness is a language of those with inner strength. If you ever are in doubt of your inner strength, please let exemplary leaders like Nelson Mandela be your role models. Truly great leaders know how to forgive their enemies, and use love as a tool to become one with their opponents, in any circumstance. Instead of making a life full of drama, do focus upon love, and upon creating an increasingly much lovable world around you, where people do care about each other.

However, do not let enemies enter your mind in a way of allowing them becoming the cause of the so-called “Stockholm Syndrome”. Stay grounded, be focused, analyze, take the necessary time to evaluate circumstances and things according to your personal perception, and an in-depth analysis about what actually is taking place in your environment, rather than taking action too quickly or reacting to any circumstance or person around you. As unfortunate as it is, not everyone has clarity of mind, or pure intentions. Therefore, always seek to consult with a few (or, even one) trusted people before taking action. Never ever let yourself be seduced into something that conflicts with your authenticity, values, ethics or morals. Even if and when turning an enemy into a friend or a collaborator, do not let anyone seduce you/r business into becoming a tool or a platform for criminal activities or let someone seduce you into becoming a partner in-crime, or, become a victim of the Stockholm Syndrome.

Crisis Management

In crisis management, be quick with the facts and slow with the blame.

~ Leonard Saffir


Conflict Resolution

Conflict cannot survive without your participation. ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer


What Changes Does Peacekeeping Need?

Peace is not absence of conflict, but the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means (Ronald Reagan)

In our world, conflict is present everywhere, be it in conflicting situations with friends, coworkers, neighbors, family members, in competition in general, in international relations, between various groups in a specific area, or between states. Mankind has, according to historical events and teachings, always been involved in a number of conflicts either locally or internationally. Nevertheless, most of humanity lives in peace, and peaceful living has never been as widespread as it is today. Despite of the fact that some conflicts remain anonymous, unresolved, complicated, and out-of-reach for international peacekeeping organizations to resolve.

Violence is the first refuge of the incompetent. (Issac Asimov)

Discussing and negotiating peace is always a better, and an easier choice, than having a fear of new conflicts, or even of having the thought of old conflicts remaining unsolved. All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within ourselves. It is also essential to realize that all conflicts emerge from the ego´s willingness to rule, an inability to deal with either personal or external behaviors in a mature way, competition, and lack of willingness to accept, and to understand the point of view of others.

According to Finnish long-term politician Pekka Haavisto, who represents the Green League, and has also represented the UN in a number of roles, the role of women in peacekeeping worldwide is currently underrepresented, suggesting that in fact, women should have increasingly much significance and a larger role to play not only in shaping world economy, but also in shaping current and future societies through a number of, and various, peacekeeping activities. Pekka Haavisto, a progressive, both nationally and internationally recognized politician from one of the least corrupted countries in the world, is not the only remarkable individual from Finland in terms of conflict resolution and peacekeeping, yet, he is the only politician so far in our country who has spoken up about the importance of women in peacekeeping.

Martti Ahtisaari, who served as the 10th President of Finland (1994-2000), is perhaps even better known internationally for his Nobel Peace Prize laureate and for his international peace work together with his work for the United Nations as a diplomat and a mediator. Martti Ahtisaari, after having served for the UN as a Special Envoy for Kosovo during the conflict, was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize for his many efforts on several continents during many decades in international conflict resolution, and established CMI (Crisis Management Initiative), a Peace Broker organization with the purpose of creating peace, negotiating in conflict situations and thus, making the world a better, and a safer place.

Anger is only one letter short of danger (Eleanor Roosevelt)

The purpose of this post is not to resolve every conflict in this world, but rather to tap into a topic that definitely is always actual to every conscious human being. Despite of the fact that 11.11. is a magic day according to some, peace and conflict management are always actual and relevant topics that ought to be discussed more openly and widely by the public, and by people in general. Holding on to negative emotions, including fear, is never the correct choice for anyone, yet, negative emotions should never lead to disruptive or uncontrolled behavior.

What are your thoughts about conflict management, conflict resolution, and peacekeeping activities in general? What kinds of behaviors, and actions, would lead to an even more peaceful environment, and world? What is the role, and importance, of integrating women into peacekeeping activities in the world? What kinds of changes does peacekeeping require to become even more efficient than it today is?

Women & Peacekeeping: A growing force (the UN):

Please share your thoughts and ideas, especially if you agree with the fact that our world needs to become even more peaceful, and free of conflicts, than it is today. Thank you for all your comments, likes, and shares.


Communication is Powerful – Use it Wisely


When we change the way we communicate, we change society (Clay Sharky)

Do you know how a satellite communicates? A satellite is something that orbits, i.e. circles around a larger entity, like planet Earth. The Moon is a natural satellite of planet Earth, and one of the largest in our solar system. The Moon, in synchronous rotation with our home planet, has a gravitational influence that produces our ocean tides and the slight lengthening of our day.

Invented by scientists and technologists, artificial satellites have been designed to perform certain duties for mankind, such as making it possible for us to receive television signals (watch TV), enabling us to communicate in a number of ways, including on and through the Internet. Some satellites have been designed to observe the weather, or take accurate pictures of the Earth´s surface. Kept in place by gravity and centrifugal force, a man-designed satellite helps us communicate and learn more about our planet.

Satellites help countries develop trade opportunities and increase business (Wayana Software. Geosats.com. 2015).

Satellites are artificially intelligent since they filter, receive, transform, and send out exactly the right information that they were designed to do. Nothing more, and nothing less.

The Dalai Lama has stated that humanity has more conveniences, but less time, more experts, but an increased amount of problems, more artificially built intelligence that stores and provides us with more information and knowledge but also altering our way of communication.

How I personally have translated the message of The Dalai Lama is that with all the capacity mankind has to develop artificial intelligence and various kinds of communication tools, we should also be capable of transforming all the information and knowledge that is available to us, into wisdom. Transform all the data and information into wisdom to solve many, or all, of the problems created by humanity because yes, most of the problems on planet Earth have been created by mankind itself.

Many of the world´s problems, and our everyday life problems, could be solved through improved communication. Communication, like the satellite example demonstrates, has a much wider meaning than our personal speech, or the language we use when we write or speak. Speech and words in a written form are only a tiny part of our entire communication system, but yet, words are powerful and ought to be used wisely.

Words and speech are a reproduction of how we perceive our environment, how we personally receive the signals being sent to us from our surroundings, how our mental schemes help us to filter out what is essential and important to us, and how we manage to translate these mental schemes (based upon personal experiences) and send out the messages that are aligned with our personal belief systems and values.

Those who understand the power of their words, and the way these are expressed, including our personal energetic field, body language, gestures, also have wisdom enough to be considerate in their communication. Communication can be trained, and improved through a variety of techniques.

Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder (Rumi)

Appreciative inquiry, a model for analysis and a social constructionist approach used for a variety of purposes, focuses upon appreciating what is, envisioning a possible future state, engaging in dialogue, and innovating the future. In my work life, I have used appreciative inquiry to conduct research e.g. upon organizational values, but also as a simplified tool in everyday dialogue and communication with people.

Learn more about appreciative inquiry, improvisation and relational leading in Taosinstitutes video with the same name:

Listen with ears of tolerance, see through eyes of compassion, speak with the language of love (Rumi)

Thank you for engaging in dialogue and for being considerate in your day-to-day communication.